The best advice is don't listen to advice, just figure it out for yourself. @a@americanbaron
Summary
A straphanger drops a paradox on Kareem: "The best advice is don't listen to advice, just figure it out for yourself." They riff on advice inflation, snake oil gurus selling success formulas, and the magic lost when you let the internet do your thinking. The conversation pivots hard when they debate failing publicly versus privately. Kareem thinks you should "progress your way to failing in public," but his conversation partner argues the opposite, saying we'd all be more open to failure if we saw successful people's earlier flops. "The road is paved with L's," they conclude. The L stands for losses. And love. It's a meta take that doesn't quite work but kind of does, landing somewhere between self-help satire and genuine wisdom about trusting your gut in an era of information overload.
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So, what's your take? The best advice is don't listen to advice, just figure it out for yourself.
That sounds like advice. It is.
100% agree. [laughter]
So, I DISAGREE WITH YOUR TAKE, BUT I AGREE. IT'S A META TAKE. It is a paradox in works and it doesn't work, but it kind of works.
Well, that's why people say go with your gut.
Exactly. Going with your gut often leads you to wonderful places. That's what I'm saying is that in this world of just, you know, look it up, we leave a whole lot of magic on the table by just not discovering things. If you let the internet or someone else do your thinking for you, a whole lot of spark joy is left on the table.
And there's way too much advice on the internet.
Advice inflation.
And you know what? A lot of the people giving you the advice are selling it. It's snake oil. How to get rich, how to get pretty, how to get popular, how to get viral, how to do this, how to do that.
They're either selling it or they're giving advice that they themselves need to hear. My least favorite thing is unsolicited advice. Oh. People come up to me, they go, "Hey, you should do this, you should do that." I go, "It's I'm not open right now." By talking to you, they're talking to themselves. That's what that is.
You're a wise young man. I'm not, but thank you.
He's all right. I'll take that. I say don't get any feedback, just do it, figure it out.
No feedback. The mistake is a much better lesson than if you went with someone's advice.
I think more people need to embrace that.
I think so, too.
And failing in public. Oh, I 100% disagree. I I think you should fail privately and then [laughter]
Oh, no. progress your way to failing in public.
Oh, I think you should fail publicly all the time.
Okay. Like if you write a book and everyone goes, "This book sucks." And then you go, "Damn, I got to write a better book." That's failing publicly. Okay. I think you should always try your best.
See, I flip. Now, I 100% disagree with that. We put so much emphasis on success. Talk to any successful person, they're like, "I failed 17 other times. You just never heard about it." But I think if we heard about it, that we would all be more open to failing.
Okay. The road is paved with L's. Put it on my tombstone. The road was paved with L's. The L stands for losses. And love. [laughter]