Alexa Chung — Ghosting is FINE
Summary
Alexa Chung defends ghosting with zero apologies. The model and TV personality tells Kareem it's "so fine" and actually empowering, especially for people pleasers who don't want to explain themselves anymore. Her take gets tactical too: ghosting someone in a situationship makes them come back for more, and you can always return with the classic "I just didn't have service" excuse. She's been ghosted herself. Her response? "That's a them problem." Kareem pushes back slightly, noting you can't ghost just anyone willy-nilly, but Chung's confidence is unshakable throughout the conversation about modern dating's most controversial disappearing act.
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So what's your take? Ghosting is fine? 100% agree. Ghosting is fine. Ghosting is so fine. Why does it have such a bad rap? I think it's not nice, obviously, to be ghosted. But sometimes there are no words, you know? Especially if you're a girl that's kind of a people pleaser, which I have been in the past. You get caught in this thing where they're still texting and you feel like you have to explain things. It's actually kind of empowering to bring out the ghost card and be like, "I'm sick of your... I don't want to have to put myself under the bus to explain this more." That explanation is so sad. I know it's "I don't like you, I'm not feeling it." It's also really effective if you ever want to get back with someone. So if you're in a thing or a situationship and it's not going well, if you ghost them, they always come back for more. And you can always come back for more 'cause they can say you ghosted me and then you're like, "No, no, I just didn't have service."
No, there's definitely a time and a place that you can't just ghost anyone willy-nilly. That's rude. What is worse though—ghosting someone or getting ghosted? I have been ghosted and I have such a high opinion of myself that I'm like, "That's... that's a them problem." I can get behind that.